I feel like it's been quite some time since I've brought an issue that has been spooking around my head to this blog, but since it's the end of one hell of a week where I was busy with what felt like a hundred things, none of which involved blogging and I'm currently trying to have a good old pamper session to cool down, I felt like it was important to voice my thoughts on this one.
I don't consider myself to be a very jealous person. Not at all, really. Yet, for some reason, I always find myself comparing myself to other people.
I'm not quite sure where that comes from, but I suppose living in a society where you're always forced to compete with those around you in one way or another, be it in a professional environment, with your siblings or even when it comes to a hobby like blogging, leads to that sort of thing - you see others as competition, so naturally, you start to ask yourself why you can't outshine them or, at the very least, be equal to them.
And while comparing yourself to others in itself is a natural process that could probably help you bettering yourself when used rationally, it can very well have a heap of negative consequences.
It poisons relationships, but even more importantly, it poisons you as a person.
You start becoming bitter, constantly comparing yourself effects your mood, your thoughts. After a while, you might even feel like the fact that everyone is out there is doing so much better than you are is starting to feel somewhat depressing.
That's kind of scary, right?
And nowadays, it's so easy to stay updated on how everyone's life is going, what they're wearing, what they have for dinner, where they're going for vacation. Especially Instagram is overrun with pictures of pretty people and their pretty lifes, and it's fairly easy to get sucked right into that make-believe world when you're sat on your bed in your pjamas, scrolling through your feed while eating ice cream.
Notice how I said make-believe world? Because that's exactly what it is.
Think about it. Would you ever share the things in your life that are nagging at you, giving you headaches or making you cry under the shower? Yeah, probably not.
And that's what everyone out there does. They share the glamorous things, the extravagant events. The nights out with friends, the vacations to white beaches with sky-blue water.
But they would never let you know that a few hours after that group photo with their friends was taken, they were throwing up in front of some pub after drinking too much, all while trying to get over a really hard break up. Or that they took on a loan to afford the vacation to that beautiful island and have no idea how to ever pay it off.
To round off that rant that kind of just erupted out of me - nice little image for you there, you're welcome - people only show you what they want you to see, each and every one of us is creating some sort of illusion for those around them.
But no one's life is a roller coaster that only goes up. It's all ups and downs and ups again. Only that the downs are slightly less glorious than we'd like them to be, and because we feel like we're the only ones failing, we hide them.
You just need to be aware that everyone has things they hide, and things they like to show off to distract from those.
So the next time you're oooh-ing and aaah-ing at those pretty people in the pretty pictures, think about what uglies they like to keep from the world. Do you still want to be them?
Didn't think so.
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You start becoming bitter, constantly comparing yourself effects your mood, your thoughts. After a while, you might even feel like the fact that everyone is out there is doing so much better than you are is starting to feel somewhat depressing.
That's kind of scary, right?
And nowadays, it's so easy to stay updated on how everyone's life is going, what they're wearing, what they have for dinner, where they're going for vacation. Especially Instagram is overrun with pictures of pretty people and their pretty lifes, and it's fairly easy to get sucked right into that make-believe world when you're sat on your bed in your pjamas, scrolling through your feed while eating ice cream.
Notice how I said make-believe world? Because that's exactly what it is.
Think about it. Would you ever share the things in your life that are nagging at you, giving you headaches or making you cry under the shower? Yeah, probably not.
And that's what everyone out there does. They share the glamorous things, the extravagant events. The nights out with friends, the vacations to white beaches with sky-blue water.
But they would never let you know that a few hours after that group photo with their friends was taken, they were throwing up in front of some pub after drinking too much, all while trying to get over a really hard break up. Or that they took on a loan to afford the vacation to that beautiful island and have no idea how to ever pay it off.
To round off that rant that kind of just erupted out of me - nice little image for you there, you're welcome - people only show you what they want you to see, each and every one of us is creating some sort of illusion for those around them.
But no one's life is a roller coaster that only goes up. It's all ups and downs and ups again. Only that the downs are slightly less glorious than we'd like them to be, and because we feel like we're the only ones failing, we hide them.
You just need to be aware that everyone has things they hide, and things they like to show off to distract from those.
So the next time you're oooh-ing and aaah-ing at those pretty people in the pretty pictures, think about what uglies they like to keep from the world. Do you still want to be them?
Didn't think so.
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